Parent restriction is one of the most common topics to be discussed in children’s and teenager’s counseling. In research, it is found that many children undergo stress and depression due to restrictions made by their parents. Parents thought they are taking care of their children and they have to control their children. But it has adverse effects on them. So here we discuss, why parents restrict their children. Is it good to make restrictions? and what children say about restrictions?
Is Parent Restriction Necessary For Children?
No matter how different our parent’s outlook towards life is from ours., the one thing we overlook is that they are always on our side. They try and do what is best for us. When we are very young they place restrictions on us where it concerns our safety. When they think it endangers us, they tell us not to do certain things. In childhood they tell don’t play with a match stick, don’t crossroad without looking, don’t touch electric wires and many more things. They repeat it so many times as they en-grained in us. In teenagers, they always keep an eye on us as it is the time when the child is growing. They restrict us to come home on time. Don’t make wrong friends.
We never question these rules as the implications of breaking them are so obvious. But sometimes the implications are not so obvious. We doubt them then. But the question is – It is okay to doubt our parents?
“We are respecting our parents’ wishes…They didn’t want to shelter us from the world’s treacheries. They wanted us to survive them.”
― Lemony Snicket, The End
Is it okay to doubt our parents?
I think it is okay to doubt, ask questions. It is okay to want an explanation for their decision. That is the only way we grow, we become adults. By weighing our opinion against theirs and then making a decision based on facts are evident to us. Sometimes we hide these facts from our parents. W know they will not understand as their perspective for life or their views are different from ours.
All is good as long as we do not get into trouble and can manage things on our own. But nothing in our control. Things go wrong, we do not know what happens next. We don’t know what to do next, then we turn to our parents.
Whether w follow or not their rules. Whether we disobey them, they are always there for us. They do the best they can in given circumstances. They may scold us, shout at us, reprint us, but they take care of us. And they always wants the best for us.
If you have parents who are in your corner, no matter what, it is a massive strength. Parents can be your wings when yours are broken, and you need a little help to fly.
With care, love and everything can be healed.
“The path of development is a journey of discovery that is clear only in retrospect, and it’s rarely a straight line.”Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child’s True Potential
Are parent restriction harmful?
Parents never think of anything done with their children which harms them. But in a relationship balance is the most important aspect, whether it is the parents and child relationship. It is the duty of parents they teach their children the difference between good and bad, control them when they turn the wrong side. But parent restriction in excess may sometimes spoil and harm relationships. And it may also affect their choices and decisions. And sometimes it may lead to feeding fear in children’s minds. They are unable to take decisions and actions on their own.
Parenting is a very sacred job done with love and care. A parent-child relationship is very divine and must be handled with proper care. Parent restriction if done in excess may spoil relationship and child growth. Sometimes parent’s behavior is so harshly that their child does not express there thought. So parents must understand the child’s mental condition, and try to make friendly relations with the child.