Unconditional love or conditional love? How do we justify it?

Love is a divine feeling that binds people in a relationship. Without love, no relation is successful, whether it is husband-wife, parent-child, brother-sister, or friendship. And if there is true love we don’t need to justify it. Love is a feeling that can’t tell or be explained.
What do you think, Love is conditional? Or not?
Is love bounded by conditions? Or it is unconditional?

People say love is unconditional, but in reality, love is always bounded by conditions. In a relationship, we human beings always set a condition, and when those conditions don’t satisfy, love diminishes slowly with time. And when love diminishes relationships diminish.

The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Why We Are saying Love is Conditional? Can humans unconditionally love?


We human beings always say that when we love someone, it is unconditional, but we never realize that there also exists. There is a myth that parent loves their child unconditionally but its not always true. For example, As a parent, when our child marries without our approval we got angry and break relationships with them. So there also a condition exists, we want our children to accept our decision and when they don’t accept, we get angry. Likely, in a husband-wife relationship, Both husband and wife want their partner to love them, respect them and accept what they said. But when there is no respect their love diminishes with time and they break up. All these examples clear it is difficult to love unconditionally.

What is Unconditional love?

Unconditional love doesn’t mean loving someone without any limit. It only means, loving selflessly without expecting anything in return. Unconditional love is very difficult for human beings.
In many cases, we heard husband loves their wife, but his wife is unable to give him a child, so they divorce them or plan to marry again. This is the condition they set. We human beings always set conditions, but there is only God who loves us unconditionally. Loving unconditionally is very hard for human beings, we always set conditions. And when our loved ones don’t meet the conditions, our minds are trained to give them feedback. Our brain is trained in such a way, as it only returns what it receives.
Bottom Line:
Unconditional love sometimes proves hard and dangerous too. Some people don’t know the difference between loving without limit and accepting intolerable behavior. In name of love, people abuse their loved one and want them to accept everything. We always know our limitations and boundaries, and also their consequences if we cross them. So everyone needs to understand the difference between conditional love and unconditional love. So our love and relationships don’t fade and destroy.

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross